It is often said that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. When we take saying and apply it to home-ownership, or dweller occupancy, it takes on a possibly literal interpretation. The paradox is supposed to be that no matter what side of the fence you’re on, the other side somehow seems to be better - greener. However, we can use our metacognitive powers to realize that if we were on the other side of the fence, then we are currently on the better side, the greener side. This mental perspective-switching is not a hard feat to pull off, and is really just a realignment of perceptions, where we place ourselves in a position to appreciate our current reality rather than covet thy neighbor’s yard - or whatever.
I bring our attention back to a literal interpretation of this saying, where my current apartment dwellership means that my (former) house back in Sacramento has the greener grass. Even if there is no green grass and only weeds, it would win by default because my apartment is fully lacking the quality of any growing thing. It is lacking a yard all together and even direct sun in the winter since it faces North, so there’s probably no hope of adorning my living space with anything living besides myself. But, if I use those metacognitive powers and stray from the literal interpretation of the saying, there are some, and one particular, benefits to my current living situation - I can’t just write it out quickly though, I’ll have to explain it.
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| Front Yard - Mike's Sacrament House |
When I had my house in Sacramento, it was at the end of a quiet cul-de-sac in an inactive neighborhood filled with diverse neighbors and a bunch of old ladies. When I first moved into my house, I was so comforted by the ambiance of the listless neighborhood and the out of the way nature of my house that I wouldn't even lock my truck door. I did have a motion light though, and more for exercise than concern, whenever the light went off due to a cat or blowing leaf, I would get up and peer out the window to see what’s-what. One time it was a man opening the door to my truck. Wisely, I opened my front door and give chase in house clothes and socks. As I chased after the man, I was informed that I was going to be stabbed, at which time I reevaluated what I would do if I caught this man and gave up my chase in favor of a cell phone with 911 access and a compensatingly large, big black Maglite.
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| Back Yard - Mike's Sacramento House |
Now I live in Albania in an apartment on the 6th floor. I have an equivalent of the chain on my door like hotels use, so even when the maid has a key she can’t come in the room uninvited. Having this device on the front door to my apartment means I can hear loud noises, but that I never have the urge to get up and see what it is. There are no security checks for me in Albania because everything I have or is under my domain of responsibility is behind a door, which has security features that would take an amount of noise that would direct my attention to what was happening before it happened.
So that’s my greener grass for right now - metacognitive powers in play. Maybe if I make it back to California, and the drought has run it’s course, I’ll be able to again have a yard filled with even greener grass that I will of course check on each night whenever I wake up and perform my security checks.







